Hi friends,
Before you read this, take a second and write down what you think is the most important factor for parents to help their children follow Jesus.
If you pause to do that, it will help you appreciate the following research.
So what’s the answer?
According to this article,
Vern Bengtson started the Longitudinal Study of Generations, a multidisciplinary investigation of families, aging and social change and has followed families since 1970.
He is coauthor of Families and Faith: How Religion Is Passed Down Across Generations and How Families Still Matter: A Longitudinal Study of Youth in Two Generations.
That piqued my interest. The guy has academically studied how religion is passed down for decades!
So, what did he find was the #1 factor? They state:
Associate editor Amy Frykholm interviews Bengtson in the Dec. 25, 2013, issue of Christian Century.
Bengtson states up front that “the highest generational transmission [of religion from generation to generation] occurs in families with a high degree of warmth—particularly if the father is perceived as warm and close.”
In other words, being role models, taking the kids to church, being involved in church and having devotional activities at home are all good, but what really counts is what Bengtson calls “intergenerational solidarity or family cohesion.”
This is not what I had expected!
I would have guessed going to church regularly, discussing apologetics, or doing family devotionals might be the #1 factor. What about you??
But it turns out that being a warm, caring, engaged father, in the context of a loving, secure home, is what best helps children to trust in God.
This isn’t to devalue the role of moms, friends, etc. In my own life, my mom’s example was very important.
What do you think about this research?
How does it affect your priorities?